How To Help Your Child Become Drug Free
Ch # 5. excerpt:
Setting Limits for Your Child:
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Helping an adolescent to seek recovery from a drug problem is a process that involves several steps. It must be emphasized that at the time this problem is unveiled, every-one in the individual's family is henceforth involved in that person's attempt to get drug-free. It is essential that all members must work on their individual recovery from the effects of their loved one's drug use. Furthermore, we cannot stress enough the importance and the necessity of the recovery process for those individuals (i.e. parents) who may also have chemical dependency problems. Recovery means abstaining from the use of chemicals as well as working to change the behaviors, thinking and attitudes that keep a person using. When you hear "RECOVERY," think "CHANGE!" Four important steps that facilitate an individual's early recovery are: 1) Recognition and admission that a drug problem exists; 2) A thorough understanding of the progresssion of drug use and the awareness of devices such as denial and enabling that serve to undermine recovery; 3) Enlisting support from the appropriate professional counselor(s)and community resources; and 4) Intervention. Intervention refers to the specific, concrete actions that are taken to impede an individual's drug use and actions that are taken which allow a child to experience immediate consequences when he or she uses drugs. Two critical and overriding components that make this process work are unification and perseverance on the part of the parties tending to the needs of the drug-using adolescent. This generally includes (but is certainly not limited to) parents and stepparents. When parents face that fact that their child is using drugs, they commonly experience feelings of powerlessness, frustration and resentment. They are understandably afraid for their child's welfare and afraid that they might not be able to solve this problem. As the parent and provider for your child, you have the right to expect her to behave within certain limits; additionally, you have the responsibility to communicate those limits clearly. Part of your child's responsibility is being aware of those behavioral expectations and the consequences of choosing not to meet them. On the following page, we present a model that we have developed to aid parents in setting healthy limits on their child's behavior. This model is titled the Setting Limits Contract. Its implementation will be an important first step in the intervention process. Successful implementation of this model will come from the careful development of its provisions with your child's counselor and their subsequent enforcement. You should be aware that your child might resent the use of this instrument and, like all children, will test its limits to determine if you are serious. The presentation of the model is followed by a detailed explanation of its intent and appropriate use. |
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Ch
# 1. A Look at the Problem
Ch # 2. The Stages
of Drug Use and Their Rapid Progression
Ch # 3. Community
Enabling
Ch # 4. Parental
Denial and Enabling
Ch # 5. Setting Limits
for Your Child
Ch # 6. Your Child
in Recovery
Ch # 7. Your Family
in Recovery
Ch # 8. Encouragement
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